L.O.V.E.

  
“L is for the way you look at me…”

There is nothing like that deep gaze into your eyes with a twinkle inkling of hope and warmth, when his/her eyes smile back. It is such a noticable look that even those around you feel its warmth and genuine emotion.

“O is for the only one I see..”

When love struck, it’s often difficult to feel, think, and see anything else other than our love. It completely takes us over and suddenly we look at life through rose colored glasses and everything around us becomes a reflection of what we feel deep inside.

“V is for the very, very extraordinary…”

Extraordinary describes this wonderful feeling that envelopes us whether in the presence of our love or even when we are apart from them. It’s a combination of excitement, warmth, joy, and terror – the fear of being so vulnerable with someone and the chance of losing what we have found together.

“E is even more than anyone that you adore can…”

This line speaks to how deep this feeling goes into our heart and soul – even more than we can imagine. When we love someone more than words can convey, our actions speak louder than them anyway and with time it becomes more apparent just how deeply in love we are.

One of my all time favorites by Nat King Cole. I just had to break it down after it played on the radio. Wonderful song for such a beautiful experience as love! I hope you enjoy it and if you haven’t found it, I pray you will!

Intimacy

  
What exactly is intimacy and how do we feel intimate with someone? 

Intimacy isn’t just being romantically and physically involved with someone. It goes beyond that in connecting with someone on a higher level almost as though you can see into their soul. It’s when you know someone so well, inside and out, that you reach out to them even at 4 a.m., and even in the smallest hours of the day and night, they seem to be on your mind.

Intimacy is a closeness achieved by spending time together, getting to know one another, accepting one another for who you are, and loving one another for it. 

So how do we become intimate with someone? Communicate openly and honestly. Some call it pillow talk, others text in the middle of the night, but say whatever’s on your mind and put it out in the open. The other party will surprise you with reciprocation. You will get to know the deepest and even darkest side of one another, but you will grow closer together for it. 

Share your hopes and dreams as well as your doubts and fears. You will find it comes naturally to want to support one another through your struggles and your achievements once you have obtained this closeness by confiding in one another.

Intimacy isn’t just between couples, it exists among friends as well, especially best friends. There is a bond that forms between two people who become intimate with one another – one that is not easily broken. 

The more you share, the more you will learn, not just about the other person, but also about yourself. They will provide a different perspective on you and your life and you will do the same for them. Together, as you grow closer, you will grow as individuals with a better understanding and appreciation for loving others.

  

Blogger Recognition Award

 Thank you, Chape, for this honorable nomination!    

How this blog started:

I was confiding in a friend one night about my condition and, after I gathered enough courage to do so, I was inspired to start this blog as I had already written my first post but never posted it anywhere. I feel like this blog gave me the freedom to express who I am – all of me – and a chance to reach out to those who suffer from ailments that are similar or even different than my own. I felt like I could share with the world what it’s like on the inside to live with an illness and still be very much alive.

My advice:

1. Write what you’re passionate about and it will show in your posts and in your readership. People generally follow genuine voices. 

2. Put yourself in someone else’s shoes before you try to judge them. It will make you think twice.

My nominations:

Lance Price Blog

Chape Personal Trainer

JGoodWithSports

dearlilyjune

Indisposed and Undiagnosed 

nothymetowaste

My Chronic Life 

salvationisadhoc

Music is My Story 

A Scottish Girl’s Journey With Chronic Pain

A. R. D. Warrior

Love Hope Peace 

Thriving with Bipolar Disorder

Endurance and Optimism 

Polishing Dookie

One Lovely Blog Award

  
I would like to thank JGoodWithSports for this honorable nomination and all of my readers out there for their continued support! I write my heart out, and, it turns out, some of you find it interesting! That is exciting and humbling at the same time. I am grateful for this blog and all the ones like it, which I aim to follow. Thanks for taking the time out of your day/night to let me share a little bit of my heart with you!

  
1. Thank the person that nominated you and provide a link to their blog.

2. List the rules.

3. Display the award on your post of the award.

4. List seven facts about yourself.

5. Nominate 15 bloggers for this award and comment on one of their posts to let them know you have nominated them.
 

Seven facts about me:

1. I work two part-time jobs and blog on the side because if I didn’t, I probably wouldn’t be able to stay sane!

2. I wish I could blog all of the time and get paid for it – personal goal.

3. I really want to get a dog, and have always wanted one, so I’m looking into different breeds and shelters.

4. I used to think that I wanted to be in a romantic relationship above all else, but now I realize how it isn’t the most important thing in life. Number one is health – both mine and that of my family.

5. Friends come and go, and I love them all in their uniqueness.

6. I try not to judge anyone else for any reason because we are all human, and with being human comes the chance of getting something wrong once in a while. I put myself in the shoes of others a lot. I really recommend it.

7. I feel safer blogging here because it gives me the freedom to share with you everything I feel inside.

My nominations are:

1. Lance Price Blog

2. JGoodWithSports

3. dearlilyjune

4. Indisposed and Undiagnosed 

5. nothymetowaste

6. Chape Personal Trainer

7. My Chronic Life 

8. salvationisadhoc

9. Music is My Story 

10. A Scottish Girl’s Journey With Chronic Pain

11. A. R. D. Warrior

12. Love Hope Peace 

13. Thriving with Bipolar Disorder

14. Endurance and Optimism 

15. Polishing Dookie

‘Cause you’re hot, then you’re cold…

  
“You’re yes, then you’re no, …” We’ve all been there – when making a decision we are faced with unlimited options or perhaps we just feel indecisive about making a decision. But why is that? Is it really because we are overloaded with options or with decisions? Is it because deep down inside we don’t want to make the wrong choice? Or maybe we don’t really know what we want.

This goes for anything as menial as which kind of bread to buy at the supermarket to something as important as who we give our heart to. Come on now, you know you’ve spent a good five to ten minutes reading labels to figure out which kind of toast to buy.

But ultimately you left the store with something in your basket – whether it was toast or not. And hopefully you found it to be what you like or you decided to try the next option afterwards. 

The point I’m trying to make is that maybe we put too much thought into the menial decisions and not enough thought and care into the more important decisions we face. After all, our perspective changes as soon as we are faced with something dire. Who cares what kind of toast we’ll have in the morning if we face near death tonight?

Perspective is everything. What exactly is it, and where does it come from? It’s the way we see ourselves and the world around us. How we interpret reality, and, in turn, how we make our decisions is greatly affected by this perception. 

Obviously if you find a food is healthy for you, you would choose it over something less healthy. Why? Because you want to be healthy and that desire affects your perception of foods and your decisions regarding what to eat. So, if you want to be in a healthy relationship, you would want to give your time and energy to someone dependable and worthy according to your perception of a good match – perhaps someone who shares your likes and dislikes or, more importantly, your values and beliefs.

Personally, I think relationships don’t last mostly because they are decisions we base on emotion and feelings of the moment more than what we have in common and whether it will last. Think about how many people you know who have “settled” for someone for the sake of their own predicament and look at those who truly are in love. The numbers of one outweigh the other tremendously. So why is it that so few people find their one true love? 

People are in such a rush to compete with each other that they feel they must grab the first one who comes along by a certain age, and then we wonder why it didn’t last. Come on, get real. I, for one, think it much wiser to be alone and happy versus with someone and miserable. 

I believe at least one person should have strong feelings for the other and ideally they would both have these feelings for each other. And even this feeling is no guarantee to last, but your perspective of the relationship – that you want to be committed to it – that will affect your decisions regarding your relationship. That, I beleive, is ultimately the most important part. And if that perspective is cloudy, there may be trouble in the future. This is why it’s so important to know what you want. Without that concrete basis, your decisions will not be as solid and you will be less consistent in your choices.

So I challenge you to ask yourself what it is that you really want before you make any important choices that you may be facing. Look deep down inside you before you decide.

The Heart of the Matter

  
Often in matters of love and friendship we may take for granted one another’s heart. What am I talking about? That “what did he/she mean by that?” feeling you get once in a while when your gut kind of drops down into your stomach and you question yourself and your relationship over something that seems so trivial in retrospect. And then the other party, noticing this change in you, backtracks and wonders if they did wrong by you. 
It’s not too far fetched to relate to, is it? It just seems so easy for us to forget the importance of protecting each other’s heart and we get comfortable with each other to the point where we may overstep boundaries. That’s when we are vulnerable and get hurt the most.
In these instances, it’s most important to communicate clearly together just what your intentions were when the comment was made or those boundaries were overstepped. If your heart is in fact in the right place, you have nothing to lose by telling the truth and clearing the air. If you are the party who took offense or felt wounded, you also have nothing to lose from asking for clarity/clarification. Maybe you misread the situation. Perhaps it wasn’t meant to be hurtful. If you just let it go and gnaw at your insides, the other party will have no idea that you perceived something they said or did as hurtful and there will be a growing rage or resentment inside you toward this person you hold dear. That doesn’t sound healthy at all.
So when dealing with one another’s hearts, when sharing your deepest vulnerabilities, your hopes and fears, your darkness as well as light, take care to be cautious. Sharing brings us closer together, but what keeps us close is the understanding that we have to protect one another’s hearts from pain and heartbreak. Not to say that we are all always going to be the perfect friends and lovers, but at least to acknowledge that the responsibility is first and foremost our own. For we hold each other’s heart in our hands, and we should carry it carefully with love and respect to honor one another and our relationship together.