Stairway


The stairway, as common a construction as it is, is often taken for granted. I’m not just talking about the one you walk up and down, but the proverbial stairway be it to success, to Heaven, to the garage, etc. How often have you stopped to think about or just appreciate the stairway – the process or journey to where you want to be headed?

We are all on one, I hope, with goals and desires to better ourselves and maybe climb the corporate ladder. But it is just as important to stop and appreciate where you are on that staircase to wherever you may be going. Just take a minute to reflect where you are in terms of your goals and how far you’ve come already. 

This stop of appreciation- this minute of reflection- can give us so much more motivation whether we are just starting to climb the staircase or we are somewhere farther along the way. As difficult as the climb can be sometimes it helps to look at how far in the journey we have come in order to have the drive to complete it.

So whatever your staircase, or goal, maybe, take the time to think of the staircase you are climbing and appreciate where you are, how far you’ve come and look to the rest of the way with determination and a sense of accomplishment. For, you have made it to the top of the staircase of reading this post and I wish you the best in your efforts to better yourself as you are that much closer to your goal now!

Go forth and climb with empowerment!

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Curve

Alluring as they might be in the female form, in the frame of a vehicle, in the design of everyday products, we cannot deny the irresistible existence of the curve.


A simple definition follows curve in the dictionary, but there is a complexity to it as well as mathematics reminds us what it takes to construct a curved line. 

But we won’t go into the details here. We will simply remind ourselves of the simplistic beauty of such an element as a curve. As stiff and static as a straight line can be, a curve opens up a whole world of shapes and definition to an object, even to a picture.

Curve – to bend a shape into a unique form – reminds us that the rules, rigid as they can be, are bent once in a while for the better. Consider a curve in the academic world to give the highest scoring student and every other student the advantage of a higher grade. Thus the curve brings a sense of positivity and creativity to the picture of life – inspiring such things as spirals, loops, and whirlwinds of whimsical intricacies to join us together as one at various points like any line does, but by bending and twisting its way through our life.

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Happiness

What makes you happy? I’m not talking about material things or people. I’m talking more about what brings you joy?

Waking up knowing that I’m alive ready for the zing of my coffee to set in. Going to bed knowing tomorrow is another chance at adventure and growth. Helping others reach their full potential. Just reaching out to see who’s there and what ideas they can bring to the table. These are some things that bring me joy…

But have you really thought about where your happiness comes from? If it comes from having the latest gadgets, it is often short-lived and fleeting as the newer version or gadget comes around quickly after the last one did. If it comes from people, what happens when they are no longer around? Hmm…

Inner happiness, which we are born with, – where does that come from? How do we feel it? Some call it inner peace, while others just bask in it. This happiness is deeply rooted within and it comes from knowing exactly who you are and loving every bit of yourself – the good, the not so good… All of that makes you who you are, and if you can love yourself entirely, you can achieve this happiness and unlock it from within giving you the confidence to put forth your best self in all situations. This is what I believe and live by, for, though battling depression and anxiety on a daily basis, I am forced to constantly remind myself that happiness is within me. It comes from me and choosing to be happy is albeit a choice. Even when that choice is the hardest one to make, it remains a choice. As depression is a serious illness treated with medication and coping mechanisms, I hope healthy ones at that, after a down spell there is happiness to return to – to look forward to, to fill the rest of the day, the rest of a lifetime.

What is happiness to you? Where do you think it comes from? What brings you joy?Summer-happiness-photo

 

What are you curious about?

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I thought I would take the time to ask what topics you are interested in reading. I love feedback and, seen as how traffic is dwindling, I wanted to touch base with you! Feel free to take the poll above and leave comments of your own describing your likes and dislikes of what I have already posted so far and what you would like to see here. I am working on a more personal post of a topic closer to my heart and would love to share it once it’s done and I have enough feedback here to go on. Once again, I appreciate your support!

Dating in a Lost World

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If you haven’t had the privilege of being a part of the dating scene recently, I really commend you for staying away from the beginning of the end of all we thought we knew. Forget getting past the fear of being vulnerable and getting hurt. Now, the hardest part about dating is finding a decent person to talk to who won’t judge you and will accept you for who you are.

Nowadays, as a majority of people online are just looking for a friends with benefits arrangement or casual sex, finding someone who is really looking for a meaningful relationship is closer to impossible not only because of the sad standards that have become the norm for relationships but also because expectations of those who are looking are unrealistic and skewed. It appears to me that some people who are on dating sites, or are not, have this cookie-cutter approach to finding their “soul-mate” when all they need to do is compromise on what truly isn’t as important (e.g., what kind of car the person drives) and what really matters in a relationship (e.g., character, beliefs, and core values).

It’s such a sad predicament to see that common sense is not the norm when it comes to making decisions these days, especially about who you spend your time connecting with if you even get that far along in the process. I have personally found that most guys who sign up for online dating are looking for some no-strings-attached kind of arrangement when common sense dictates that sex without a meaningful relationship is just giving in to primal emotion and needs. But where does acting on pure emotion get us in this world except confused, lost, and alone?

Furthermore, acting on emotions alone causes us undue stress that can be eliminated by the use of common sense or the faculties of our mind. Think of this: you meet a guy/girl at a bar/restaurant/wherever you may be. You hit it off, meaning you feel the mutual attraction. You choose one of two paths: 1. exchange numbers and start talking, getting to know one another over time before going forward in a relationship, or 2. find a place to get right to the horizontal hula, his place/your place/hotel/motel – doesn’t matter, but you give into your emotions and primal urge. What of the aftermath of each path? Path 1 allows you to discern whether or not this person has your best interest at heart, what his/her intentions are, what kind of personality this person has and whether it fits with your own personality. Path 2 leaves you in limbo. What the heck is the status of this union? Was it a one-time thing? Is there anything deeper? Will it happen again and under what circumstances? What of these feelings you now may develop for this person after being physically intimate without knowing one another? What if he/she doesn’t want more than this and you do? As we can see, there are more questions than answers in taking the second path – questions that lead to more questions… Why not save the headache and drama by thinking through your decision and taking the time to evaluate the situation? Some may say they only want the physical intimacy once in a while and they are able to remove themselves from the aftermath of path 2 without any trouble. However, what kind of life does this practice constitute? What of the emptiness in your heart that develops and grows as time passes? Do you never crave something deeper? I’d like to think that everyone does crave something deeper than a one-night stand – that deep down inside we are all programmed to want much more than that, a true and lasting, meaningful relationship in which we connect with another individual on a higher level than just physicality.

What is your take on today’s dating scene? What do you think about these two paths and why people tend to choose one over the other nowadays? Feel free to share some of your experiences in the comment section.

Am I Weird?

Yes, most definitely, yes! And I say it with pride. Why, you may ask? Because I am free to be myself and for that freedom I am eternally grateful! For why should I be something other than who I am? For what reason should I conform to someone else’s definition or expectation of me? I am confident in who I am, I know my limits, and I live within them. I am free to push them farther and farther as I grow and develop continuously as I wish to better myself in various categories for my own good and for the good of those who work with me, live with me, love me, and support me.

So in the hustle and bustle of daily life, why not be a little weird? Why not embrace everyone’s weirdness? Face it, whether you want to admit it or not, you’re a little weird, too. Don’t worry, though. I won’t tell anyone! But that’s why I love you! For your weirdness, your quirks, and the distinct actions and characteristics that make you who you are. That is what I fall in love with whether it be in a relationship or a friendship. This weirdness is strangely attractive in its own way, and when you are infatuated with someone their quirks become even more the reason to find that person irresistible.

All of this positive talk about weirdness, however, is countered by how difficult it can be for us growing up. When we are teens, we just want to fit in with the crowd and weirdness can be seen as a factor for being socially ostracized. Even in adulthood, our weirdness can be frowned upon if not fully understood and appreciated.

Isn’t it amazing, though? That our differences are what attract us. That our quirkiness can be the essence of our being and the reason why we love one another? What are your thoughts on this? Dare I ask, what do you think makes you “weird” and how do you embrace it?6c93648faf1d13f01a0ef930aae262d7

Are You Alive or Merely Existing?


For what is the difference between living and existence? What is it that brings us to life in this monotonous routine – “la vie quotidienne,” as the French say? What helps us find and work toward our full potential?

Goals – big and small, short and tall – goals about anything and everything our heart desires. If you think about it, it’s pretty simple. Set a goal for yourself. Maybe you want to lose weight or tone your muscles. Maybe you want to stand up straight or speak louder. Maybe you want to change the way you dress for work or after work. Whatever you want, I assure you, you can achieve it with some hardcore effort and a change in your daily routine. Work this goal into your busy schedule. Set aside time to work on it and maybe enlist the aid of your friends, family, or coworkers. I’m sure they will cheer you on, and I know I make it sound easy, but at the least it’s doable. Keep a positive attitude about it and you will see it through!

Some major goals will have tiny sub-goals that will help motivate you to succeed (e.g., adopting a healthy diet and losing weight to find a date, etc.) and achieving these goals can reap unexpected rewards besides feeling great about what you have accomplished – as you should take the time to appreciate your efforts to better yourself.

And do this for yourself, not for anyone else, but for the sheer satisfaction it brings to know that you are alive and in control of your own destiny. That you can achieve anything you set your mind to – that the possibilities are endless!

It will change your life and your outlook on life into one of adventure and strength, success and endurance, character and core values.

So, what are you going to work on today?

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