Being Mr./Ms. Right

There seems to be a backwards approach to dating – that we are all in search of Mr./Ms. Right, when we should in fact be bettering ourselves to be desirable matches to our soul mates or what else you would prefer to call them.

I, for one, have a lot more work to do on this part I do admit, which makes sense as to why I have yet to find someone to share my life with. I feel as if I’m still getting the hang of this adult life and there are a plethora of experiences I have yet to go through as an adult. Perhaps living at home has put a damper on some of these experiences or has postponed them – being financially independent, for example. However, considering my health and prior state of being, I can’t imagine what life would be like now had I gone through my illness on my own without the safety net of a strong support group like my family. I probably wouldn’t be here to write this in that case.

As everyone’s life and journey is different and cannot be compared to anyone else’s, I think it’s safe to say that we come upon love when we are ready and willing to accept it. By ready, I mean at an emotional and physical maturity – a level of confidence that is unshaken, a means of knowing exactly who we are as individuals and what we are looking for in a relationship, an understanding of what love is that is developed over time.

Have I reached this readiness? I don’t believe so, as I am still working hard to better myself, but I do try to leave the door open for love to step into my life, although sometimes I find that hard to do. And having this outlook on love, I have stopped searching for Mr. Right, and instead looked inward to become Ms. Right for the guy I hope to attract. And if this Mr. Right happens not to exist, at least in the end I will be proud of the human being I am, and all that I have achieved in bettering myself.

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3-Day Quote Challenge (Day 3)


As a person who strongly likes plans and the security net that goes with a plan, this quote was a hard lesson to learn, especially out of college as I approached the world with no clue as to what kind of job I would have and what kind of future that would be. The future was unknown and that scared the pants off of me, but as I learned not to fret it, but to accept the reality of my situation, things started to fall into place. A job opened up and I was at the right place at the right time, knew the right people who knew I worked hard to serve others well. And the rest took care of itself. Looking back, I can see that all I had to do was be who I am and trust that things would work out somehow. 

Sometimes we just need to let go of what’s holding us back (in my case, fear), take a breath, and move forward trusting that God will provide.

Today I nominate: of snail mail, love hope peace, and lipstick and laundry.

3-Day Quote Challenge (Day 2)


This quote makes me realize that without darkness and despair, we would not know and appreciate the goodness of light and happiness. The storms in life, the lows that we go through, make the highs and clear skies worthwhile.

So if you’re at a low point right now, try to look up and hang in there because good times are just around the bend! Thankfully, these dark times never last forever. They end and make way for better days.

Today, I nominate: dearlilyjune, indisposedandundiagnosed, and the view from my window.

3-Day Quote Challenge (Day 1)


Thank you for tagging me, lancepriceblog!

This quote reminds me that no matter what life throws at us, we have the power to act and react to it well or poorly. In that power, that choice, lies the key to our well being and our state of mind throughout this journey called life where there are definitely ups and downs, highs and lows. 

Our attitude when we are faced with adversity is key to our reaction and the outcome of it all. So stay strong out there, committed to your beliefs and faith, and try to see the good in every situation, try to be better than you were yesterday – slow to anger, patient with annoyances, etc., and keep moving toward your goals!

For this challenge, I nominate: chape, jgoodwithsports, and victo dolore!

Companion


Friend. Compadre. Confidant. Buddy. Partner in crime. 
What we all search for in this life is someone to share the ins and outs with. 

Having a set of challenges that make it hard to find someone, from a condition to a more difficult than usual personality, I think it a good idea to turn to a companion that is less talkative in human terms. This creature being a dog, is nothing new for most people. For, the dog has been a lifelong companion to many – and a faithful one at that. Always happy to greet you at the end of your work day, never too tired to snuggle on the couch, willing as ever to go for a walk and play, this creature seems to be the epitome of a true companion, diverting your attention from stress to a state of playful bliss and discipline at times. 

So as we pay tribute to companions today, I urge you not to forget one of God’s most loyal creatures – the dog. Show him/her some love!

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Liebster Award

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I’m honored to say that dearlilyjune nominated me for a Liebster award! Thank you, dearlilyjune, as I love reading your posts to your little one and find much solace in your words.

The rules of accepting said award, as I understand them, are as follows.

To accept a Liebster, you should…

  • Write a post thanking and linking the person who nominated you and include the Liebster Award sticker in the post.
  • Nominate 5-10 other bloggers and notify them of this in one of their posts.
  • All nominated bloggers are to have less than 200 followers.
  • Answer the 11 questions posed by your nominator, and create 11 different questions for your nominees to answer. Or, you can repeat the same questions.
  • Copy these rules into your post.

 

My questions to answer:

  1. What are your feelings about mirrors? Do you obsess over them? avoid them? cover them when someone dies? I avoid them except in the morning when I’m getting ready for the day at hand.
  2. What mirror most haunts you, be it literal (the fun house mirror of swimsuit shopping) or figurative (the way your child reflects x in you)? Definitely the former – swimsuit shopping is not fun!
  3. What do you know about hope? I know that hope lives deep inside like a flame everlasting and you must keep it well fueled and not forget that it’s still there when the going gets tough.
  4. What’s something you always seem to do wrong or backwards? (A word you always misspell, for instance)? I often put my pjs on backwards when I change into them in the dark.
  5. What’s something you can always seem to get right on the first try? Telling someone’s character from the way they interact with me and others.
  6. How does reflecting on yourself change who you are? (Does answering these questions make a liar out of you?) Reflecting on myself makes me realize how much I’ve changed and grown since the last time I reflected on myself. Haha! No, I’m not lying. 🙂 
  7. If you were the last person left on earth, would you be lonely, or just alone? I’d definitely be lonely without anyone to write to. 😉
  8. In what ways are you just like your parents? (How do you mirror them)? I’m just as stubborn as my father and as accepting of others as my mother.
  9. If you haven’t […fill in the blank…], you haven’t lived. I would say “loved” in any sense of the word.
  10. If there were one thing/topic/idea/concept/behavior you wish people reflected on more before they spoke, what would it be? Listening to understand and not just to react.
  11. How do you keep from falling into the well of yourself? (That could mean how do you avoid depression, or self-centeredness, or selfishness or some combination)? I listen to upbeat music or sometimes the sad tunes just to feel what I’m feeling if I’m down. I write in a diary or here or elsewhere when I feel like I’m being self-centered – a way to reach out to the vast universe. Or I pray.

 

And My Nominees Are…

  1. Lance Price Blog 2016
  2. Behind the White Coat
  3. indisposedandundiagnosed
  4. Chape Personal Trainer
  5. The View From My Window

 

My questions to you:

  1. What is your biggest fear and why? What do you do to avoid it?
  2. Who do you love the most (people gone or alive, deities, role models, etc.) and why?
  3. If you found your soulmate (supposing that you haven’t already done so) what would you tell them? (If you have done this, what did you say to them? What was your reaction?)
  4. If you had a whole pizza to yourself right now, would you polish it all off in one sitting or save some for later?
  5. What is one of your dream goals in life and what do you think you could do more of to achieve it eventually?
  6. When you were little, how did you explain where thunder and rain came from? (I’ve heard everything from angels’ tears to angels gone bowling).
  7. Are you more of a cat person or a dog person? Why do you say that?
  8. If you were to open your closet door right now, what color would the majority of your clothes be? Why? (Have you been doing your laundry lately??? 😉
  9. Define kindness.
  10. Do you see any hope in humanity or is your hope all invested in something or someone else? Why?
  11. Do you think robots will ever take over the world or do you believe in a zombie apocalypse? Or, how do you think the world will end or do you think the world will end when you close your eyes for the very last time?

If you were not nominated (I’m very sorry!!!), but you would still like to let me know your answers to these questions, please feel free to do so in a comment!

What Will Illness Be Like in 100 Years?


Will it even exist? With the rate at which medicine and technology are advancing, one would hope that illness will not be so prevalent in our lives. What with gene selection already able to wipe genetic disorders from fertilized eggs, what else will they think of next?

I, for one, am against designer babies, but eradicating genetic disorders is one step ahead of the game in my book. Perhaps some may see it as playing God, but I see it as our responsibility as human beings to bring healthy individuals into this world and decrease their suffering. It’s not easy to live with an illness and nothing about it is fair, so why should people have to live with one if there is a way to remove it from their DNA? 

Now, I’m not a scientist or a doctor, and I don’t know all of the risks of gene selection, but I am an individual whose genes contributed to a condition I much rather wouldn’t have chosen to deal with, and I’m sure that my family would have wanted to avoid the pain of seeing me bear this burden. 

I do know that this is a costly procedure and like many other things in life money seems to answer the difficulties of genetic disorder, but will this gene selection one day be a part of the normal process of human reproduction? And who will decide what is to be cleared out of the egg and what is left untouched? These, to me, are scarier questions that might one day be answered. 

What are your thoughts on illness in the far off future? What do you think about procedures like gene selection/designer babies? Do you think illness will still be around to an extent 100 years from now?