There seems to be a backwards approach to dating – that we are all in search of Mr./Ms. Right, when we should in fact be bettering ourselves to be desirable matches to our soul mates or what else you would prefer to call them.
I, for one, have a lot more work to do on this part I do admit, which makes sense as to why I have yet to find someone to share my life with. I feel as if I’m still getting the hang of this adult life and there are a plethora of experiences I have yet to go through as an adult. Perhaps living at home has put a damper on some of these experiences or has postponed them – being financially independent, for example. However, considering my health and prior state of being, I can’t imagine what life would be like now had I gone through my illness on my own without the safety net of a strong support group like my family. I probably wouldn’t be here to write this in that case.
As everyone’s life and journey is different and cannot be compared to anyone else’s, I think it’s safe to say that we come upon love when we are ready and willing to accept it. By ready, I mean at an emotional and physical maturity – a level of confidence that is unshaken, a means of knowing exactly who we are as individuals and what we are looking for in a relationship, an understanding of what love is that is developed over time.
Have I reached this readiness? I don’t believe so, as I am still working hard to better myself, but I do try to leave the door open for love to step into my life, although sometimes I find that hard to do. And having this outlook on love, I have stopped searching for Mr. Right, and instead looked inward to become Ms. Right for the guy I hope to attract. And if this Mr. Right happens not to exist, at least in the end I will be proud of the human being I am, and all that I have achieved in bettering myself.